The golden rule of parenting | Mel Robbins

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Parenting styles vary and I don’t claim to own the book on perfect parenting, but I often get asked how I parent three very individual kids. Recently, I met up with millennial entrepreneur and investor Gerard Adams in my home and he asked me about my principles on parenting.

I feel strongly that my kids are not meant to be carbon copies of me and Chris. They have their own thoughts, feelings, and goals. Our job isn’t to tell them what decisions to make–our job is to teach them HOW to make decisions.

One thing I know is this: no matter how great a job you think you’re doing with your kids, something will happen in their lives–whether it’s something you say or do, or something else that happens in their environment–that will mess them up. You can’t control how they internalize all the things in their lives, so let go of the worry that you have to be perfect and just be the best parent you can.

What you can do, however, is give your kids the tools to think critically, ask “why?” and question expectations, so that when they become adults, they have the skills to think long-term and make best choices.

What’s one piece of parenting advice you love?

This is a clip from my episode of Leaders Create Leaders with the incredible Gerard Adams. Find the whole thing here:


TheMons26 says:

This is just normal old parenting.

Ronnie Quest says:

When it comes time to put in college applications and your kids prefer to play instead of getting college applications taken care of lady you have failed and your kids are still kids instead of mature young adults

Rhett Phillips says:

I’m a grown man with kids and just hearing the manner in which she talks makes me want to rebel against whatever she is saying no matter how right it might be. Maybe her kids are just as intense as her, but not likely. You can say almost anything with a smile, and almost nothing without one. She’s lucky her kids listen to her.

Rebecca Oprea says:

Children are a gift we have to steward . They are not our, we are just entrusted with their care .

Mary-Jane Chambers says:

Good word! Teaching them to be adults to be able to live on their own. We cannot control our children to make them into our image.

Janna says:

Am I crazy? I heard nothing innovative or empowering about what she said? She literally said she “trained” her kids. college applications are the most stressful thing in your life? That’s not true and a fear tactic. How is she teaching cause and effect? Sounds like she lectures her kids like every other parent until the kid finally caves just to shut the parent up.

Petit Papillon says:

This has been my thinking in parenting and today this happened to show up in my YouTube feed. Glad that I have been right. I have a 16 yr old.

Zarmeena Shah says:

I love you mel robbins.

Rich Weatherford says:

After 5 kids… it gets a little old every expert telling us thatbthey have the golden rule…. Im so brilliant… Your kids watch everyth8ng including "know it all" atitudes…

Sarah Doan says:

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Just thank you! Amen!!!

다이앤다이앤 says:

Growing up, my parents have always been, "do this", "don't do that", and when we asked why or why not, they don't have explanations.
Parents are supposed to be our guide, but we grew up just following their orders and learning on our own the whys. This didn't turn out well for my siblings coz they thought they were being manipulated.

cyndi says:

The best thing you can ever do for them is telling them about Jesus and eternal gift of life he freely gives.

Samuel Lakin says:

Breath taking window light there.

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